Mar. 21st, 2010

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He calls me 'love' almost all the time now, or 'boo' or 'babe'. I don't say it back. I call him my 'darlin' or 'dear' which I call everyone.

I have been strong in maintaining that I can't be owned nor have any interest in owning, but I AM paranoid and mindful of the the programing.

He reminds me often that I could not be happy any other way, which is something S doesn't do. He champions my relationship with S and even my occasional dalliances. In some ways he accepts me MORE than S...well actually differently. S elevates me. Entirely! JM grounds me.

This morning he told me he loves me from the tip of my toes to the top of my head. He tells me often how much he craves simply to be near to me and I don't doubt it because we miss each other when when we're apart, enough that we text or call often.

Tonight he said he wants to spoil me because I've been working so hard. That one really touches me because of the word, no one has ever wanted to spoil me, not really. In the end it doesn't matter because it likely won't happen. I'm over here, he's over there.

There is a part of me that is terrified by such words of affection. S loves me too, I can feel it and I pull away from him too. Why do I do it? S is even less dangerous to pull away from because he has a partner who is truly open.

Maybe I'm afraid of wanting more, of the part of me that wants more.

What If I let myself love him? I mean let myself love him in that tender open way that goes against every rule. I'm not sure I'm capable of it, I have too many barriers. It is easier for me to love in that completely 'you're over there' way.

He says S is his dream, he wants to be like S, is he trying to move there with Di? I don't see how that's really possible.

I'm struggling with the paradigm and I've been at it a lot longer. For me know it is a struggle at how to get closer.


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